Find the opportunities of grace inside each moment.
Life can feel tragic. Staying present and connected can mean that we become over-inundated with the negativity this world offers around every corner. How do we balance the grief and the self-care needed to embrace the gratitude from the dark? It’s not something that always comes intuitively or with ease. The pull to feel can become a trampling of emotions and quickly turn to a riptide.
Where to begin? When does the weeding become something of worth? There are opportunities embedded inside each of our experiences and that pulling and tugging we work so hard for, is to find those moments of grace.
Understand your moments. Is there pain? Feel it until you understand every fiber of where it is coming from. What it looks like. What it means. What it’s telling you. Give that pain a name, a face, a voice. Understand that this pain and this moment have risen because it needs to be known, handled, and cared for.
Distraction is not the final answer. Spend less time avoiding and more time experiencing the caverns of your feelings. To achieve understanding you must first offer yourself opportunities to understand. The temptation to replace is a healthy mechanism, but it’s also serving as a defense. Our survival instinct kicks in and we want to place the hurt in a box to open later. There is no time limit on that pain and it has a life-span that will match yours. Offering up opportunity to open and acknowledge what is there is the ultimate gift of self-care. It will hurt but the road to recovery begins at that moment.
Pain waits at your bedside
until you wake.
It will hold your hand,
breathe your breath,
you ask it away.
Boundaries equals balance. There may be trepidation and anxiety around forging walls or building boundaries. There is a healthy avenue to take in offering this form of breathtaking self-care. Why is it breath-taking? Because once you experience the freedom in allowing only what you know is right for you, you will never go back to how you were before. You will rise. You will experience bondage being lifted. You will begin a life you never knew you could actually live. Small shifts in your being can offer giant-sized outcomes.
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