We can’t always be prepared for the unexpected. Actually, we rarely can. As we journey through this life we pick up tools here and there on how to deal with disappointments and failures, but those tools are never all encompassing. They also can never determine ahead of time the full totality of the pain we may inevitably suffer through the course of our lifetime. Let’s face it, this life is full of challenges!
These last several months for me have been challenging, to say the least. There have been a multitude of issues to face, and it felt like a nail in the coffin when my website crashed, and I experienced a total data corruption. I lost it all and had insufficient backups (my bad) to save much, if anything, of my previous content. It felt like one more heavy thing to add to the pile of painful and crazy issues I’d endured.
I admit I had to take several days to grieve and self reflect on what this website destruction meant. What this re-build, if any, should look like. What my focus was, and in what direction I needed to go. I didn’t want to act impulsively or base any decision on my emotions of hurt and frustration.
After a series of meditations and self reflection, I decided to take on the daunting task of rebuilding. I knew I had to do it differently and I also knew that I needed to be kind to myself during this process. This will evolve as all things do, if I step back and allow it.
Often the best things in life come out of the ash. We all build and rebuild, it’s part of our inspiring existence. Rising from destruction, whether it be as menial as a website, or as profound as recovering from grief, is a moment of triumph. No matter the manner in which we find ourselves in the wake of destruction, it takes courage to re-build. On many occasions, it can also take more than just you to do it, so don’t be afraid to ask for help. There are endless communities out there, like this one, that offer care and support no matter your hurt.
Celebrate your successes, big and small, ask for help, and forgive yourself even when it all goes to shit.